You’re DTF, but is she? Learn more about the intricacies of these three simple letters past its Urban Dictionary definition, here.
In this article:
- She Actually Listens to the Stupid Shit Coming Out of Your Mouth
- She Doesn’t Blame Others
- She Isn’t Afraid of Saying No
- She Doesn’t Try To Be Perfect
- She Can Disagree with You
- She Accepts and Likes Herself
- This Is on You Too
DTF | Nailing That No-Strings Hookup
Let me preface this with the obvious: No means no.
DTF — no strings attached sex? Hit it and quit it? One-night-stand? At one point fellas, we’ve all kinda wanted something like this, or at least wanted to try it if you haven’t already.
There are telling signs that a girl would be DTF, but the thing is: What comes after? And that’s the trick. If only there were some sort of DTF app to make shit easier.
Rather than looking for the girl who will be down to f*ck you on a first date and deal with the backlash after, look for the girl who is emotionally stable and can actually accept that you might just be fucking horny (and that’s it).
Yeah, this article took a turn for the worst didn’t it? But trust me, it’s worth the read. You’ll thank me later. Here’s how to find a woman who would be DTF and can actually handle it emotionally.
1. She Actually Listens to the Stupid Shit Coming Out of Your Mouth
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People love to talk about themselves. Nothing wrong with that. But listening is rare. If she can recall something you previously said, and better yet, has some witty shit to say about it… I mean, come on.
Both sexes are guilty of not listening enough, but if you know a girl who actually listens to you and all the bullshit you might joke about, it’s a really good sign of maturity and interest.
If she knows how to listen to you, then she will listen to what you want (and don’t want).
But don’t be one-way about this shit. Listen to her too, man. If you do, you’ll be able to read between the lines and hear the obvious “I want to get married and have kids ASAP” thing, or the DTF and have some fun thing.
2. She Doesn’t Blame Others
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A girl that is emotionally stable enough for a pure DTF situation is the kind who doesn’t blame others. You can find this out easily through some good old-fashioned conversation.
Ask her about her day and see if she’s blaming a co-worker or boss for the crap she had to deal with. There’s a difference in girls that can pinpoint their own shit vs. play the victim in every difficult situation.
A girl who blames others for 100% of the bad shit that happens in her life is probably not the best person to engage in this kind of night. Unless of course, you’re secretly the kind of guy who likes that kind of backlash… Then have at it, I guess.
3. She Isn’t Afraid of Saying No
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An emotionally stable girl will easily say no to the shit she’s not interested in… including a one-night stand.
Not only should you respect that shit, but take it as an indication of emotional maturity. It’s f*cking hot when a girl knows what she wants and more importantly: What she doesn’t want.
It’s also a sign of confidence. On the flip side, a person with lower confidence typically doesn’t know what they want or how to say no (and don’t ever f*ck someone who isn’t sure about whether they want to f*ck you).
Confidence is sexy AF and definitely factors into having meh or great sex. Life is too short for bad sex. F*ck that.
4. She Doesn’t Try To Be Perfect
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I know I’m not alone when I say that perfection is boring. When a girl is constantly trying to be perfect, I see it as a mask. And if I wanted to f*ck a mask, I’ll just whack it, thanks.
Talk to her about her personality. Ask about her strengths and weaknesses. Sure it kinda sounds like a job interview, so be tactful about it.
A simple, “What are some things you hate/pet peeves?” usually gets this flow going. It’s also a great question to reveal whether she blames others, BTW.
Steer the conversation to the things she knows about herself. Find out her judgmental level.
Speaking of which, judgment gets a bad rap. Sure there’s the f*cked up kind, but judgmental is often mixed in with being selective, and there’s nothing wrong with being selective. Toxic people and shit is everywhere. If she’s being judgmental about who she chooses to hang with, take it as a sign of emotional stability.
It’s rare to find emotional stability… Maybe there’s more to this girl than you think?
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5. She Can Disagree with You
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If you can have a conversation with a girl about something you disagree on, boom. This is a sign of really good emotional maturity.
It shows she’s someone who isn’t afraid to show you the flip side. To show you something you’re not considering. Constant agreement is f*cking boring. If you want to be agreed with 100% of the time, get a f*cking dog.
This is a human with a brain. She has opinions. And if you want something purely physical, then you need someone who can voice their opinions rather than stay quiet, internalize their emotions, and spin that shit into something it’s not.
6. She Accepts and Likes Herself
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There is a limit though… You don’t want a f*cking narcissist. But you do want someone who is comfortable in their own skin and wouldn’t have it any other way.
Knowing the flaws about herself and accepting the flaws are two different things. The latter often leads to acceptance, but not everyone gets there. You want someone who has both the “know” and the “acceptance.”
If she accepts herself, she might accept you, and might actually have the emotional maturity to handle a DTF situation.
7. This Is on You Too
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If you’re not at these maturity levels, you’re probably not mature enough to tell the difference between someone who is great for you and someone who is completely wrong.
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If you want to have sex with a girl that you might actually like, don’t be afraid of letting a one-night stand turn into a repeat. Roll with it, you just never know.
Here are additional tips from alpha m. on how to flirt via text messages:
If you haven’t been in a serious relationship before (and never want to), GTFO. Try new things. Don’t be dumb and say no to things you haven’t experienced for yourself.
And don’t forget to wear rain boots when you go out in the rain.
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